FORGIVENESS

Do you think that you can please all people around you? Are you sure that you never made any mistake that hurt others or never regret yourself? If you answer “Yes”, you are not human beings!
Each of us has a lot of relations and we have to keep them well in daily life. This depends on your skills and how you value the importance and effects of good relationship. No one is perfect so we sometimes have mistakes (innocently) which hurt others and hurt yourself alike. Everything seems be too serious and terrible if sometimes we do not forgive. Forgiveness can help us improve ourselves. After being forgiven, we think of what wrong we did and try to do the better things or avoid the same bad ones so we feel comfortable and motivated to make this life became easily and peacefully. When we forgive others, we have peace in mind because we have just given them chances to make a new start.
This is easy to say but so hard to do. It’s up to the situation and the way people think about it.

REAL SITUATION:
There was a couple, they loved each other and they got married. When their daughter was one year old, the father left. He went to America, had another family and forgot his ex-wife and daughter. The mother kept the sorrow inside and had to work very hard to bring up her kid. Eighteen year later he came back Vietnam and found his child. He really wanted to help her to study oversea, in America but the young girl did not want to leave her mom. She said she hated him a lot because of his fault to her mother but her mom encouraged her to go to have a bright future.
In your opinion should the young girl forgive her father to go to study oversea? Why?
If the girl decides to go, does she forgive the father or not?

Vocabulary:
- To make mistake (v): phaïm sai laàm
- To forgive someone for something (v) : tha thöù ai ñoù vì chuyeän gì
- To feel ease at mind : thaáy thoaûi maùi
- To overcome (v): vöôït qua
- To hurt someone (v) : laøm toån thöông ai ñoù
- To feel guilty (v): thaáy coù loãi
- To make it up for someone : buø ñaép cho ai ñoù
- To regret (v): thaáy hoái tieác
- To depend on something (v): phuï thuoäc vaøo caùi gì ñoù.
- Serious (adj) : traàm troïng
- To improve (v): caûi thieän
- Motivated (adj): ñöôïc thuùc nay
- Peacefully (adv): thoaûi maùi, yeân bình
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SOME QUESTIONS TO DISCUSS:
Have you ever done something that made you can not forgive yourself? What was it?
Has someone had any mistake that hurt you and you can not forgive them? Tell us about this please?
Is it easy to forgive other’s mistakes?
Does forgiveness make you feel ease? Why?
Is forgiveness better than keeping inside?
Who always forgive you?
Do you often say sorry to your parents when you make mistake to them?
Is forgiving others easier than forgiving yourself? Why?
If your sweetheart has a love out of marriage, will you forgive him/her? J